Helping yourself heal
Ultimately healing after the loss of a loved one is not an overnight process. It can take months or even years to start feeling like yourself again.
Remember, acceptance and healing is a journey. It will take time to adjust to your new reality, and this is okay!
Talking through your feelings, either with family and friends or with a mental health professional will help you make sense of and process your emotions.
Planning ahead can help alleviate some of the stress your loved ones will experience.
You Are Not Alone
The death of a loved one, and the subsequent planning for final arrangements will be emotionally difficult. At Klamath Casket, we understand this difficulty, and we strongly suggest building a support structure for yourself during this time of grieving. This support structure can include family, friends, a therapist... anyone you believe will be beneficial while you adjust to the reality that your loved one has passed on.
You may find the information we've provided here helpful as you begin your journey towards healing and acceptance.
What is grief ?
Grief is whatever you think and feel inside about the death. We experience a wide range of thoughts and feelings about death, and these thoughts and feelings are known as “grief”.
All your emotions, memories and even physical symptoms you might be having because of the death are part of your grief.
The grieving process
Grief is so much more than just the sadness you feel. Feelings such as confusion, anxiety, anger, shock, regret, and sadness all combine, and this mixture of feelings is likely to change day to day or even minute to minute.
While you try and understand the death, you will likely find yourself thinking about memories, about events leading up to the death, future concerns and more. All these thoughts are a natural part of your grief, too.
Low energy levels, trouble sleeping, muscle aches and pain, tightness in your throat or chest, headaches, digestion troubles, and heart palpitations are also common. Your mind AND your body both experience grief together.
All of these things can result in temporary and unexpected changes in behavior. Crying, yelling, pacing, or isolating yourself are all common behaviors during a grieving period. Don't be surprised if you don't feel like yourself, or if your interactions with others seem out of character. Provided you aren't hurting yourself or others, these are natural and healthy ways parts of the grieving process.
It’s a normal and necessary part of your grief.
Accepting a loss
When someone we love passes away, our emotional and physical responses can be overwhelming at times. Accepting and embracing these is key to accepting the loss and completing the healing process.
Remember, your feelings of grief exist because of the love that was shared between you. It’s okay to express your grief in healthy ways, to talk about the death with others and to keep the memories of your loved ones alive.
There is a sacredness in tears.
They are not the mark of weakness, but of power.
They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues.
They are messengers of overwhelming grief…
and unspeakable love.
~ Washington Irving